One of the most common questions that I get when talking about polyamory is why I feel that it is best for me. Well, to sum it up I would say the freedom to let my life and the people that I meet develop however they will. I want to live life the fullest way possible, and for me polyamory is a big part of that. There is a lot to it, and I will explore it as I post more, but this is a start!
I have always been some form of polyamorous, but it was something that I struggled with for a long time. In my previous relationship we could never find a way that worked for us both 100%. I had always struggled with the idea of not being able to get close to new people that I met or to spend time with people of the opposite sex, so I never limited myself in friendships. When I met Max we right away became best friends. He was someone that I was connected with right away, and we really enjoyed getting to know each other. My ex did not handle that very well, and combined with many other reasons we ended up parting ways. Around the same time Max’s long distance relationship also dissolved.
Max and I stayed best friends, picked each other up from our break ups and over a year later decided to date. We were polyamorous right from the start. We knew right away that we never wanted to be in a situation again that would cause so much heartache. I had never anticipated meeting Max, and if I had let him slip away because of a choice I made years ago I would have missed out on so much.
For me that idea is at the core of why I am poly. I want to live my life to the fullest, and putting someone in a pre determined box before I even meet them is something I do not want to do. I have no idea who I may meet tomorrow, next year or 10 years from now and I want to be able to let that grow in whatever way is most natural. If I find a friend, lover, or life partner I will never have to choose between losing that new person or losing Max. I will be able to let people come in and out of my life as they will and I can fully experience all that they may bring.